Child and Adolescent Psychiatry Specialist recommends warm and sincere treatment while helping children get to school and beating school phobia.
This year, a new era begins in the life of the school bell. However, this year, as opposed to other education periods, those who have reached the age of 5.5 years start their first year. Children’s parents, separated from the family elders who are interested in them, the problems they are experiencing to enter a new environment seems to increase.
You’re always afraid if you say ,don’t be afraid!
Do not be afraid, there is nothing to be afraid to say ‘If you say that the child to say that there is something to be afraid to do, such as making, you should avoid creating sentences that contain commands.
6 suggestions for school fear
The child, who is preparing to enter a new environment, wants to know what will happen in the environment to feel safe. However, in order to be able to know and understand it, the child needs to have sufficient and qualified time. Here are 6 suggestions to defeat this fear:
WAKE UP YOUR CHILD IN THE MORNING. IN THE EARLY TIMES, CHILDREN MAY NOT WAKE UP ON THEIR OWN AS THEY TRY TO GET USED TO A NEW ORDER. SEEING THAT THEIR PARENTS AWAKEN HIM, THE CHILD FEELS A SENSE OF RELIEF.
• OF COURSE, STARTING THE DAY DOESN’T END WITH JUST WAKING UP. HELP YOUR CHILD PREPARE FOR SCHOOL, DRESS UP AND BRUSH THEIR TEETH.
• HAVING BREAKFAST WITH YOUR CHILD HELPS YOU FEEL GOOD BEFORE YOU GO TO SCHOOL.
• GOING TO SCHOOL WITH HIM ALSO INCREASES HIS SPIRITS, FEELS SECURE, FEELS A LESS SENSE OF LONELINESS.
• PLACE THE BACKPACK IN THE CLASS.
• ASK THE PARENTS TO SAY GOODBYE BY THE WINDOW.
In addition to this, parents leave their children in the classroom and have a quiet tone and appearance. Children are sensitive to what their parents feel and if they’re concerned, they’ll know right away. Hence, by saying goodbye, the mood you are in affects how he cries or cries happily for school. No matter how sad you feel, feel free to speak with a calm and constructive tone. If you are worried or unhappy, your child receives a message elendir There is something that worries my mother about going to the school / nursery / home, so there may be something I don’t know?
All of these approaches may sometimes fail. In this case it may be useful to get support from a specialist. Game therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy methods and drug therapy are among the methods used. Sometimes, alone or sometimes, these methods are combined to provide treatment.
Insecure children have more difficulty
In addition to the calendar age, the physical and mental development of the child is also an indicator of whether he / she is ready to start school. Some children may mature later, so they may have to wait another year to begin school. However, if a reluctance arises due to attachment or anxiety, this behavior needs to be addressed.
In such cases, the postponement does not prevent him from giving the same reactions when he starts school, even after 2-3 years. This is seen more frequently in insecure children who have never left their parents and felt the separation of the separation. The anxiety level of these children is quite high and may be a state of anxiety in their parents. It is more common in children who have never been given responsibility, who are overprotected and who are not allowed to develop their autonomy.
His sister, his brother, the job easier
One of the questions asked is whether the only children or the ones with their siblings are more likely to start school. Although there is no definite answer to this question, it is a little more difficult for children who think that they will spend time with their little sister’s mother at home. Children with older siblings or older children, older sisters and their brothers went to school to see the relaxation of the child in this situation by creating an incentive to encourage motivation increases.
The distant and indecisive teacher can increase the anxiety of the child
The most concern for children in school is the separation from the parents and the fear of not seeing them again. At the point where children feel safe, their concerns are diminishing and their adaptation to the school becomes easier.
There are also important tasks for teachers besides parents. From the moment the child enters school and is in a state of concern, the first contact with his teacher is very important. A caring and relevant teacher facilitates the adaptation of the child by giving them a sense of trust, while a distant and ambivalent teacher can raise the child’s anxiety by creating mistrust. For this reason, the child’s first day of school for the day or day to bring his beloved one or two toys that the teacher would be useful to allow, some of the rules stretching the child’s school adaptation will create an important support element.
The teacher should be able to make the parents and the child feel that they are aware of what is doing and what they are doing by taking control from the parents. The parents who trust the teacher will reflect this on their child and the child will believe that he will be safe.
Don’t tell your child these 4 sentences!
Some warnings about parents about correct sentences and wrong sentences:
Don’t say, Do not be afraid !: If the mother says d Do not be afraid to her child “it means that there is something to be afraid of from a child’s point of view. As it hurts when you say Do not be afraid, the needle will not hurt at all “.
”Don’t worry, I’ll never leave you in the next room : The child’s opening in his mind: You have to worry, because I’m curious too, if he lets me be vicious people, I’ll be waiting for you in the next room, but I’m not sure either“.
I will never forget / leave you at school, your father, your aunt, your grandfather will take you “: In the child’s mind: al I have the possibility to forget you in school, and if I am so forgetful, I hope someone will take you“.
Do you want to go to school?In the child’s mind: You have the right to go to school and keep things you know at home (TV, toys, games, etc.). I’d prefer what I knew if I were you.
SAY THOSE 4 SENTENCES!
• ”HOW EXCITING ARE YOU GOING TO HAVE A LOT OF FRIENDS? •
•. I WONDER HOW MANY NEW GAMES YOU’LL LEARN, AND IF YOU TEACH ME, WE’LL PLAY TOGETHER AT HOME. •
• ON YOUR WAY TO SCHOOL YOU CAN SHOW YOUR TEACHER HIS FAVORITE PAINTING OR TOY, I’M SURE HE’LL LIKE IT. •
• ”YOU’LL ALWAYS HAVE MY MIND WHEN YOU’RE AT SCHOOL, BUT I’LL ALSO BE HAPPY TO KNOW THAT YOU HAVE FUN THERE. •
• YOU CAN SAY SUCH SENTENCES THAT YOU THINK WILL INCREASE THE MOTIVATION TOWARDS THE SCHOOL DURING THE GAME OR BETWEEN WORDS. YOU DON’T NEED TO SIT DOWN AND TALK SERIOUSLY