How should be toilet training in children?
Toilet Training Period 12 -36 is the period between months. In this period, with the child standing on his own feet, with his standing on it, we gradually call it common life symbiotic life . The process begins to unravel. With this discovery, an infinite curiosity begins in the child: curiosity and confusion. Hands everything, shuffles, gets everywhere, goes from everywhere. There is no danger to him. He wants to try, perceive and apply all he can learn. Naturally, it is also the limits of the freedom of the child.
We call this period the period of autonomy, that is, everything is in the hands of the child and he wants it to be. That is why there is a time of friction with the mother. He has set out to enjoy his freedom in eternal curiosity. Mom is waiting to limit, stop. , Stop, do not go, get, take, exit, handling with the form of obstacles. As a result of this, a conflict arises in the child’s feelings towards the mother against the mother. The child of this period is dependent on the mother, not completely disconnected from him; On the other hand, I am in tune with his mother in promoting her own limits, not trying to do as she tells it. ”Anal period. It is also called toilet training period “. In this importance, the mouth region has lost its importance and the anal region has gained feature.
Pee or pee for the child at this age. they are very effective tools in the war with his mother, He will do them wherever he wants, whenever he wants; will not want to recognize the border. However, in this period, because of the mother trying to give him toilet training place, a friction between mother and child in determining time occurs. Again in the sleeping area; the mother wants to deposit the child at certain hours, the child does not sleep, he wants to know more the world by being more awake. In the field of nutrition, the child, with this sense of autonomy, wants to eat his own food, as well as infect, infuse, sink his face and enjoy it, while the mother wants to teach him something about cleanliness and order; to be sure that the child is full.
The child of this period does not want to know any limits, and if we leave it to infinity, what will be the consequences? In this period, children have never met a limit; When they are blocked, they develop tantrums, children who hit the floor and hit their heads on walls when they are prevented by a rule, a selfish, aggressive request. Strike, they’re crushing. Children who do not learn how to poo their poo, how to do it, go around with poo. therefore they have no concern, no place or time. At the other end, what happens when obstacles are unpredictable and extreme, when obstacles that do not fit the child’s nature are placed?
In this period, the distributor, curious, moving, mixer, the features of the child is very restricted and these qualities are suppressed; be overly malleable, passive, prescriptive; the child may develop extreme rigor and order fondness. When toilet training begins with a child’s physiological and mental readiness, or when the child is treated with a toilet training to allow for excessive oppression, flexibility, even small kidnappings at the beginning of training; in this period, even if toilet training is gained as a result of overpressure and supervision, when the child encounters any stress factor at later ages, the process that has not been resolved within the toilet education period comes back with the symptoms of pee or poo (enuresis, encopresis). So how should we handle children in autonomy?
In this period, the nature of excessive resistance, stubborn child’s stubbornness of the stubborn child to go on the spite of going to fear is invalid and will give negative results. It may be an appropriate attitude to offer different options to attract attention to other areas. It should be known that patience, patience and exaggerated minor dilemmas are not exaggerated with rigorous anxiety, but a stable parental attitude can be very beneficial. It is sufficient to take the child to the toilet during the hours when the child will be pee or poop, to repeat this procedure at appropriate and certain intervals and to reward him when he informs. In addition, this period is very confusing and dangerous to the child, it is necessary to be careful to protect from hazards.
To protect the child from dangers; appropriate environment in the house to play it easily, it can be poured to provide the corners it will be useful, this period in the education of the child “autonomy period” taking into account the developmental characteristics of the rule, not over-printed, the child’s own ability to recognize and allow the use of, but limiting when necessary and non-variable attitude When monitored, tensions between the child and the parent are minimized and the child is supported with a periodic quality towards a healthy development line. In this age children water games, soil and sand games, sounds, percussion, plug-in games, plugging toys, confusion, infectiousness, curiosity and aggressive impulses to unload, is a suitable game options in terms of orientation.